Pro-life ... pro-choice Its all how you look at it.

On Saturday I celebrated the two year anniversary of my miscarriage. I am not sure if I call it a birthday or a passing day. Either way I lost a baby, and I grieved and it hurt immensely. I have recovered but I miss the child I would have held. On the other hand today I celebrate my daughters first birthday. I know and understand that she would not have been with us here had I not miscarried. So there is a bitter sweetness to the loss.
So it is all in the way we look at it. I am glad that no one told me on that fateful day two years ago.. “You can always have another baby...” Because that child was physically taken from me.. Note: only physically not emotionally..

Today I celebrate that a year ago my daughter joined us visually. She had been with us emotionally and I had felt her presence physically from conception. I can only try and understand the loss and pain a woman feels after a self induced pregnancy termination. I wonder if she ever does heal emotional knowing that she caused a loss of life. I guess looking at a fetus as not a part of humanity makes it easy. Therefore I say… It depends on how you look at it. If you really want a baby; a miscarriage is the loss of human life. If you don’t want a baby then the baby is just an inconvenience and can be terminated. I can promise you, when you get older chances are the emotional trauma comes home to roost.