Talking to a Terminally Ill patient

Today we are off to visit Aunty. I am actually very nervous. I am told she looks very weak and is on oxygen. I know it will be a shock to the children to see her like that. I will prepare them best I can before hand.
Now I am down to my concerns. According to Hospice of America, I need to let her take the lead in conversations. If she wants to talk about her illness then let her. I have to be honest with her, she can tell when I am not. For some reason, just as the elderly become invisible, terminal people are looked at the same way. I must let her know we see her and are there for her if she needs anything. I should not feel sorry for her. I am guilty of that. I know how tough she is and I can’t help but think how this is really hard on her. I have to give her dignity. In the awkward moments I’ll just find out if she needs anything.